Tools and training are great…

Therapy involves a relationship with a professional who has had years of education, training and experience in different theories, techniques and processes to help people overcome depression, anxiety, trauma related dysfunction, relationship issues, self-doubt and self-loathing… and a host of other problems that people can experience.

Relationships are more important.

All these theories, techniques and tools… they’re great, but the research shows us that it’s the relationship that is the most healing part of therapy!

A therapist can have a host of credentials, knowledge and expertise, but if you don’t feel connected with them or like you can trust them, then therapy will not be productive.

Make sure you do your research and find a therapist who is a good fit for you.

Take advantage of the free telephone consultation most therapists offer.

Get a feel for each one and pick the one who has the expertise you want AND who feels comfortable.

With a good therapeutic relationship and a therapist with the expertise you need, so many good things can come from therapy. These are just a few:

• • increased self-respect, self-love, self-confidence and self-compassion
  • greater feelings of empowerment
  • support for making the tough decision to end a relationship or begin a new one
  • courage to take a leap of faith and pursue a dream you’ve always had
  • more gratifying and fulfilling relationships
  • greater ability to handle challenges with equanimity (I know. It’s a big word. Look it up.)
  • clarity about your life purpose
  • better communication skills
  • positive perspective on life, even when things seem less than ideal
  • better parenting and more peaceful relationship with your kids

We’ll probably work well together if you identify with one or more of the following:

• • “I’ve read some parenting books, but I’m just not sure which advice is the best.”
  • “I’m juggling as fast as I can and I can’t keep up…I’m exhausted.”
  • “I love my kids, but I’m ashamed to admit sometimes I don’t like being a mother”
  • “I was a great mom before I had kids!”
  • “Sometimes I yell at my kids. I know it’s not right, but they won’t listen otherwise.
  • “I love my kid with all my heart, but sometimes I think I’m screwing this up.”
  • “I don’t know who I am without the roles (mother, wife…) I’ve been filling all these years.”
  • “I know what I should be doing to improve my situation. I just keep f***ing things up.”
  • “Our relationship is just pretty good. I think I have some hang-ups from my past that are interfering with it being stellar.”
  • “I need to get a grip on my anger. It has ruined more relationships than I like to admit.”
  • “The thoughts in my head? They’re like someone’s yelling at me and they won’t shut up!”
  • “I wish my partner and I could just go back to how we used to be. Life was so much easier then.”
  • “My anxiety is taking over my relationships and I’m afraid I’m going to lose people close to me.”
  • “My heart is broken into a million pieces over this breakup. How will I ever feel good again?”
  • “Why can’t I figure out how to make my life work? The same problems keep happening over and over again.”
  • “I’m successful in some areas, like my career, but I can’t figure out how to make my personal life work better.”
  • “There are things I’m afraid to reveal to anyone. I need someone who I can trust and who can help me get rid of this shame.”