Let us fall in love again and scatter gold dust all over the world; let us carve gems out of our stony hearts and let them light our path to love.
Should We Call a Therapist???
Chances are you’ve waited a long time to call a therapist. Things get really bad, and you think about calling; but then they get better, and you decide you can wait.
Then things get bad again – you have a big fight; one or both of you resort to criticism, defensiveness, contempt, or even stonewalling to make your point and be “right.”
You’ve noticed a pattern, and it seems to be getting worse.
Or maybe you don’t even fight, but there’s no connection any more. You feel like you’re living separate lives and just going through the motions.
You hardly ever do anything together; when you do, the conversation is superficial and leaves you feeling empty.
And forget about sex or any other intimacy.
Ugh. What to do? This was the farthest thing from your imagination when you married! You were so in love and compatible. You were convinced you would live happily ever after. And you did for a few years. You had kids and loved being a family.
Or Maybe It’s Really Stressful!
Maybe the kids are acting out, and you and your partner disagree on parenting. You even think maybe your kids are realizing that your marriage isn’t that great.
Maybe the kids are grown and out of the house, and you’re wondering how to navigate the empty nest.
Maybe one of you sacrificed a career to be a stay-at-home-parent, and now it feels hard to find a purpose in life.
I Am a Therapist Who Can Help
All these scenarios are common and familiar to me.
Relational counseling is geared towards helping couples:
- Rekindle a wavering flame
- Learn how to fight or to disagree so it doesn’t damage the relationship irreparably
- Learn how to be unified on the parenting front
- Learn how to repair the relationship when damage has been done.
- Get clear on your shared values and dreams for the future.
- Learn how to rebuild your friendship…This is the primary focus. It’s the foundation of everything!
When you work with me, I utilize the principles that make a marriage work as discovered by John Gottman and his research team in the past 40+ years. I will recommend a Couples Check-up (an online assessment) through the Gottman Institute, for which I will receive results that will be invaluable in our work together.
I’ve helped many couples improve a flagging relationship or rebuild a damaged one, and even brought couples back from the brink of divorce.
If you’re committed to making things better, I’m happy to be your guide along the way. It’ll take some work; but you’re up for it, aren’t you? After all, this is your life and your happiness hanging in the balance.
Let’s write a new story for your relationship. It is possible that you’ll experience a ripple effect, and other areas of your life will improve as well!
Call me, and we can talk about your life and figure out if we’re a good fit. I promise to do my best to help. However, if it makes sense to refer you to another therapist, then I’m happy to do that, too.
An investment in your relationship’s well-being is priceless.